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Leadership


          When war is planned against a clan,   sick or develop complications with
          tribe, country or the world, she ends   a lifetime worth of damage. The
          up suffering the most. Watching her   annoying part is that she would later
          child being raped or sodomized, her   be slammed with a bill she cannot
          husband killed, her children slaugh-  afford to pay.
          tered in front of her eyes, but she
          still never gives up with the hope   Back at home she would be lucky to
          that one day justice will be found.   find sufficient help during this pain-
          That the hope she has kept would   ful recovery episode. Her ribs going
          keep the world calm and humans     back to their normal position while
          coexist peacefully. She would never   birth canal bruises take months to
          give up on humanity.               heal. Her backbone is extremely
                                             weak and she cannot even take a
          She is still full of sympathy, ac-  proper bath. Cleaning her infant is a
          knowledging the fact that comes    tough task but, in few months, she
          with the difficulties of pregnancy   will be forced to work with her baby
          that go with bringing a human being   on her back for hours. I wonder
          forth on earth. 3 months of feeling   how such a lady would still put a   careers, inspiration of our soldiers.
          pathetic, nausea, and unable to stand   smile on her face. Sadly, you would
          any aroma from onions. Lest you    find that her husband is relentlessly   May I never forget you; may I never
          forget, she has children and a hus-  in demand of late-night conjugal   disrespect or raise my voice against
          band waiting on her to cook. Add-  ‘rights’ which she would so often   you. With hidden tears, you are
          ing on, is the exploitative world of   go out of her way to fulfill,despite   brave, tough and fearless. Our great
          health care, clinic checkups which   her unstable mental health. Any   women you are always giving almost
          cost more than a 4 month budget.   straightforward mother would tell   everything the world needs, even
          Gynecologist visits and blood boost-  you that it is painful breast feeding   by borrowing from others to make
          er injections, and another 3 months   a baby and especially with growing   sure none is left out. Our mums, our
          of no comfortable sleeping posi-   teeth cutting through her nipples.   wives, our sisters, our neighbors you
          tion. The baby playing in her womb   Unfortunately, all we do is that we   possess strong bodies that receive all
          during weird hours of 2.00am. At   go ahead and ignore all of this.   kinds of verbal insults and physical
          times she is so thirsty and she must                                  assaults. Emotionally disrespected
          drink a lot of water in preparation   My question is this; while she is   these are the heroines we never
          for the due date. She has to deal   going through this, where is her   crown.
          with all types of fumes in the cities,   husband? Probably, he is in the
                                             house, drunk as crazy, at the mis-
          strong sprays in the public transport
 Married but Still Single...  vehicles, arrogant conductors, or   tress’ house having ‘fun’ because   The author is a mentor, trainer and writer bear-
          passengers sitting next to her with
                                             apparently, he cannot wait that long
                                                                                 ing adequate experiences in business development
          zero understanding of her struggles.
                                             the making, or  he is in a club with
          Impatient human beings around      for her healing, which is months in        and brand management success.
          who are too busy to excuse her.    his friends being called big names    LinkedIn:linkedin.com/in/robertmmwangi
                                             reminding each other going home
          The worst part comes when she      early is not manly. The other ques-
          is in labor. Some rude nurses and   tion is where is her husband when
          stressed doctors who got used      she walks out at 4.00 o’clock in the
          to emergency mode go as far as     morning without escort or in the
          beating her while she is in labor.   market lifting heavy loads by herself,
          Some nurses are involved in the    or in the hospital needing protection
          deaths of babies, whereas others   from being mistreated or when she
          are too preoccupied with funny     is feeding the family alone? No, it
          videos forwarded to their phones,   feels like she is still single. Afrikan
          at the expense of the patient in   queen, mother of mankind and all
          the delivery room. The tragedy of   women all over the world, I Sa-
          this is that when the woman gets   lute you! Our heroines, our shock
          cold, she would probably end up    absorbers, pro-creators of lives and




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