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FAITH STORIES

We exchanged vows on that
day and He became my Lover
and for two years, He took me
through probation, where He
started teaching me certain
principles. I now understand
the reasons why I learnt them.
For instance, principle number
one was love is a choice. Just
like we have to choose to die
to self daily in order for the will
and purpose of God to prevail
in our lives; so does it need to
be in marriage. And boy is there
a lot of dying to self(ishness)
involved in marriage! Can I get
an Amen?!
The other thing He taught me see how things would go’ kind other first. Don’t ask me what
that I found interesting was
of guy. That’s one of the first kind of knowing we were doing
from the book of Ruth, the things Mwema told me in our for the five years! The first
opening verse says, “In the early conversations, “You’re six months of my marriage
days when the judges ruled, my wife.” He says he doesn’t were plagued with episodes of
there was a famine in the land.” remember saying anything of depression. I entered marriage
He said that this was why He
the sort [laughs]. I tell him, “You having ideas and expectations
needed to raise Kings. What were under the influence of the that I felt were not being
this meant for me was that I Holy Spirit.” Everything else met, so I was not seeing how
started praying for my king. that I prayed and asked God for children were going to come
Mwema came into my life in my husband, I got. into that space.
before the first probationary
I think, for me, our relationship The other thing is, when I was
year was complete, but God places a constant demand for in high school, God had told
was not giving me an audible growth from me, which in turn me not to put anything into my
response as to whether he draws me closer to Daddy. God body as far as family planning
was the man He had brought is constantly reminding me was concerned. I was a virgin
into my life. I prayed a prayer
that I cannot do this life without so I was wondering why we
He had taught me to pray: Him and that drawing from Him were having that conversation.
“God reveal to me his heart is the only way I can be filled Once Mwema and I were
and his motives.” Whenever I and then have some to give married and I was adopted
had prayed that prayer before, and share with my husband into his workplace insurance,
things would happen that
and children. That looking to I went to see a gynecologist
would not be for my good. my husband to fulfill all my that I had started a relationship
For instance, a guy who had needs is a futile endeavor, with in 2010. She looked at the
been treating me well up until not to mention quite an unfair calendar I presented, which
that point would start treating expectation of him too. I had tracked for two years,
me with disrespect or say
and recommended that I go
things that would show that The journey to parenthood for further tests. She said, “I
we couldn’t walk together. was not a straight line. suspect that you only ovulated
However, every single time I
No. [Laughs] We got married three, maybe four times in
prayed that prayer over Mwema this one year. You might have
on our fifth anniversary (of
- I would be shown a beautiful
being together) and decided what is called Polycystic Ovary
side to him. I had agreed with that we would have children Syndrome (PCOS) and I
God that my husband needed after two years because we need an ultrasound to confirm
to come knowing that I’m his
wanted to get to know each that.” This was confirmed by
wife. Not a ‘let’s just date and

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