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Re-Education

when the Lord started to make me two women made on my mind be a man, and what it means to be
understand where I got the narra- for decades, to the point where a woman, and how both redefini-
tive of a white woman from. He my choice of a wife was a white tions will create the communities
took my mind back to somewhere woman. What if I was not helped and societies that we hope to see
in the 80s, when I was about five by the Lord to see where my imag- and live in. Why is that important?
or six years’ old ,and I was stunned ination came from? What if I had We can only be on the outside or
about how far back in our lives the opportunities to travel to Europe in the society what we are on the
things that influence our present or America while growing up, and inside and in our homes.
day choices and decisions can be. then came in contact with white Our lives, like my own story that I
I could remember the age bracket women? What would have become shared, are set in daily events like
I was then because of where we of me, my destiny as a person, layers upon layers. And it is very
were living when the event hap- from the perspective of me think- difficult to know which day, month
pened. ing that white women are just sex and year a particular layer of our
images and nothing more? Would lives was created and hidden. It
What happened was that, a friend I, by now have had children that is like a library of books with no
of my mum’s came visiting and are half Afrikan and half American titles. How do you know the book,
they got talking. She was telling my or European and then told myself the chapter, the page, the para-
mum about how her husband left I had achieved God’s purpose for graph and the line where you saw a
her for another woman. Her story my life? Imagine such deception. statement decades ago? It is almost
was that, her husband went to But what I want you to much more impossible if you are not helped.
Europe or America, I cannot recall imagine is this: How many people And that is why we must be careful
exactly, and got himself sexually in our world today are living their of the layers of events we create
entangled with all manner of white current lives based on former lies each day, which have the ability to
women, and forgot about her. She that they imagined in their minds, define our lives.
was very particular about the sexual or things they were told by oth-
side of things. I was in a corner ers from the past that formed the So, instead of just teaching and
of the living room, so I could hear bases of their judgments? From showing our children things that
what they were saying and that the rate of the pseudo-lifestyles make them men or women based
story made a huge impression on that we can see in our world right on their biology, maybe we also
my mind. I think because, as an now, and the influence of these need to begin to share with them
introvert who loves to imagine and social media influencers, you will simple principles, rules and mind-
create things in my mind, even as agree with me that not many are sets. Those that help them under-
a child, I began to imagine why living their own lives, but they stand that when they go out there
it was possible for the man to are living the pictures they see in into the world, it is not a fight
leave his wife and go after a white others. Now imagine what kind of between who is male or female,
woman just like that. In my young world we will have in the next few who is richer than the other, or
mind, I reasoned that white women decades, if we do not begin to cor- even how to play the game to
must be very good looking, sexy rect things in our children that are “win”, but how to be humans,
and very romantic for such things detrimental to their true growth. and live like humans with selfless
to happen. To make matters worse, hearts, compassion, kindness, love,
that was the era where Bollywood And please do not get me wrong inner beauty, which sees good and
was making those their three hour and think that I am against marry- beauty in others and not sex toys
long movies with lots of beautiful ing from outside of Afrika. Not at or human ATM machines. We must
women singing, dancing and plenty all. teach them to see DIVINITY in
of romance. At that time, I had no every HUMANITY they come in
idea about the difference between a What must we do? contact with. We must let our boys
white woman and an Indian wom- It is definitely easier, and less cost- know that the female is not a toy
an, as long at they appeared in the ly, to train, raise, and build respon- for sexual gratification, but moth-
movies they were the same to me. sible children than it is to repair ers and sister that must be honored
broken men and women. And that and respected as carriers of life. We
Now, imagine the magnitude of is where the challenge is. We must must teach them to take responsi-
impressions that that seeming- begin by renewing our minds, and bility and to do it with noble hearts.
ly simple conversation between begin to redefine what it means to

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